Posted by judy1 on January 7, 2004, at 10:05:26
In reply to Thanks everyone. I'm trying to decide what to do., posted by Dinah on January 7, 2004, at 9:13:46
I'm sorry you're in this pattern Dinah, I know it well. We start thinking there's something wrong with us, everybody is angry, what's the point? sometimes I think it's OCD, the obsessing and pushing so that even if the person is not angry at first, we can make them feel that way. sometimes other people have reasons to be angry (that have nothing to do with us) but we being the over-sensitive beings that we are, internalize it and make it all about us. you are a warm, caring person and that did not change overnight- your thinking patterns can change overnight, but the essential 'you' cannot. I'm glad you are feeling more rational today, why not think of reasons why these people in your life (boss, spouse, therp) may have reasons to be upset that have nothing to do with you- i.e.- cut yourself some slack.
take care, judy
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