Posted by crushedout on January 5, 2004, at 15:49:52
In reply to Re: T is relieved -- should I be, too?, posted by naiad on January 5, 2004, at 13:54:35
yeah, i think that makes sense. although to be honest, i don't really think i was being completely honest. i still hope we can be lovers on some level. but rationally, i know it highly unlikely i will get my wish. and i also know rationally (from reading in session among other things) that it wouldn't be a good outcome for me. sigh.
> I think she's relieved because you told her "I know we can't be lovers..." She hears you making a statement that sounds pretty final and that relieves her from having to convince you that a romance is not a good idea.
> BTW -- several posts ago I said that it was impossible for you & your T to be lovers. You questioned my use of the word impossible. What I meant was that it is impossible that becoming lovers will have a good outcome. Of course, I don't know this to be true, but from what I have read here and in the book "In Session" it seems highly unlikely. Anyway, that is water over the dam since it sounds like you are thinking clearly about the situation now. Good for you. You really have processed some difficult stuff.
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