Posted by naiad on December 25, 2003, at 18:03:08
In reply to Re: I'm glad it worked for you! (nm) » naiad, posted by Dinah on December 24, 2003, at 19:02:18
Dinah,
I went into the session with a clear message of how hurt I had been by his impatience and almost immediately I was able to express a very important feeling. I told him that the reason that I have so much trouble talking to him about transferance issues is that I get nothing back. My outpouring of feelings for him is completely one-sided. I hate getting nothing back, meaning any reciprocity from him. Of course I understand on a cognivtive level why it is impossible for him to cross boundaries and non-beneficial to my therapy. But that doesn't mean I don't want it. I think I've been feeling angry and hurt because he hasn't responded. Oh well, it was helpful for me to express how much I HATE that feeling. If I were to assign a deep memory to that feeling, it would not be difficult to imagine that I did not get the love I wanted from my mother.
And, he told me he hadn't returned my Saturday AM phone call until Monday AM because he had oral surgery on Saturday and he was in no condition to talk to anyone. It explains why he may have been a bit testy on Friday and, of course, why he didn't return my call. When I expressed sympathy he said he hoped he was not manipulating me!
He is working very hard and I really do appreciate
him. I don't claim to be easy. Again, thanks for your support.
Nai
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