Posted by Dinah on December 24, 2003, at 19:10:55
In reply to Re: It's too late to cancel :(, posted by Karen_kay on December 23, 2003, at 20:49:54
Just when I was angry enough with him to shake my shameful dependence, he goes and not only apologizes but also shows a great deal of insight and skill. Sigh...
I wouldn't talk about it, because I didn't want things to go wrong on the last day before the holidays. And he understood that and said that whether we talked about it or not everything would be fine. Then since I wouldn't talk about it, he talked to me. He apologized, explained the dilemma he was in and how unsure he was as to how to best proceed, and asked me how I would like him to handle it if it came up again. He told me it was perfectly ok if I was really mad at him. Then he quite correctly and gently pointed out that I appeared to be just as angry with myself as I was with him, for wanting to see him while he appeared to be dangling me along. And he let me change the topic till I was ready to discuss it a bit.
We had a nice gentle session exchanging stories about our childhood Christmases and Santa Claus. And he'll be in town the first part of next week so we have an appointment for Tuesday morning.
He makes it soooo hard for me to stay mad at him.
poster:Dinah
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