Posted by crushedout on December 22, 2003, at 22:17:03
In reply to Re: My therapist is less than perfect..., posted by LostGirl on December 22, 2003, at 10:26:34
my therapist is big on gratifying/giving me compliments. basically telling me how much she likes me. is that really so bad?
i feel a little awkward when she does it, but i basically appreciate it. i don't think she goes overboard. and i think it's genuine. so, is she doing something wrong? my sense is not.
> I think even with a great therapist, there are going to be off days and misunderstandings and miscommunications - just because they are human.
> I really freaked out for days over it whenever this happened with my former therapist - because it was SO good most of the time.
> The part that bugged me the most which was mentioned above is how even though we clearly had this great rapport and it was so intense and so good, he was not one to give compliments or to in any way allude to his good feelings for him. In fact, at times, he did and then quickly took it back, or twisted it into something else, out of his own discomfort with putting it out there, but then I really, really felt rejected.
> I do think they think they are not supposed to gratify us.
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