Posted by fallsfall on December 1, 2003, at 7:18:19
In reply to Re: Somebody help..., posted by LostInTransferance on November 30, 2003, at 22:11:31
First, this sounds serious enough so that you need to push her to honestly talk to her therapist about this. Now the question is how do you do that?
You said: A couple days ago, my girlfriend realized that she was experiencing a case of Transferance with her therapist.
How did this come about? Who put the name "Transference" on what she was experiencing? How did she feel about this revelation? Does she realize that the relationship doesn't exist? Is she scared? Does she think she is losing her mind? What is her current diagnosis, and how does she feel about that? Is she generally honest with her therapist? Does she (obviously not) tell him EVERYTHING? What does she see as his role in her life? Are there family members with mental illness? How does she see mental illness in general, and how does she see herself fitting into that?
During the "relationship", can you describe an event that she related to you?
You will do much better if you can get her cooperation in alerting her therapist, so let's work on a strategy for that. Have you even gone to a session with her? How much does she tell you about her therapy? How long have you been together? Do you live together? Do either of you expect to get married?
Lots of questions...
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