Posted by Elle2021 on November 30, 2003, at 8:13:52
In reply to Re: Somebody help..., posted by LostInTransferance on November 29, 2003, at 22:54:11
You seem like a really kind person. Your girlfriend is fortunate to have a person like you in her life. To be honest, I'm not sure if you can help her. This looks like something she and her therapist are going to have to take care of. Perhaps it is best for you to give her some time to work things out, which may take awhile. I know you care a lot about her, and that you want to help her. You said you are willing to be there for her even if you aren't together (at least that's what I concluded from your post). If you want to stay single while she is working it out, then so be it, but I think you would be better off dating other people. God bless. Let me know how things turn out.
Elle> Thanks for your input Elle. I'm tring my best not to take this personally...but it's kind of hard. We've both read many articles on transferance also, and we've both read that it can be the key to unlocking whatever is blocked in her mind. As far as her Pdoc, from what I know, she made the stuff up to cover up a 2 year period of her life. The details of dates and times spent with her therapist were very vivid and on key. It was almost impossible not to believe. You could be correct with the lack of affection input, but I'm not sure. To be honest, I want her to get better herself before she worries about our relationship. I'll be here for her regaurdless. The new problem is that now that she's realized the "perfect relationship" never accually happened, she doesn't know what happened in them two years. She's upset because she doesn't know if something horrible happened that she's tring to cover up, or if it was just a boring time in her life she's replacing with an exciting relationship. I just want to know if there's anything that I should or shouldn't do to help her. I really want to see her get through all this and eventually get on her feet.
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