Posted by DaisyM on November 25, 2003, at 0:52:32
In reply to Re: I'm creepy.. Help!!, posted by Karen_kay on November 24, 2003, at 17:09:08
<<<See, this is what I'm afraid of. I tell him that I'm not honest with him. I think he's getting the wrong idea. What I mean is that I withhold information like this...
>>>>I think you are using all of this to avoid the really hard, painful issues you've uncovered. It is "easier" to keep the discussion on him, instead of your dad, and your memories. I know, I use my own "stuff" to do this.
I wouldn't tell him about driving by, I wouldn't actually do it, if you haven't already. Curiosity is normal, but using it to beat yourself up with makes me think that you are using it as a defense. You "know" this is going no where...so ask yourself this: If you are absolutely FORBIDDEN to talk about your crush and all related activities, what would you talk about? You only get one line about the weather, BTW...
Forgive yourself if you feel you've crossed a line and move on. Allow for "normal" curiousity. But stop avoiding the REAL ISSUES.
Not that I don't enjoy most of your very descriptive posts-- walking up the stairs today I just about laughed out loud thinking about what you would be doing!
-D
poster:DaisyM
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