Posted by Karen_kay on November 24, 2003, at 17:09:08
In reply to Re: I'm creepy.. Help!! » Karen_kay, posted by Penny on November 24, 2003, at 15:53:47
> I found out, sort of by accident, where my former T lived, and then rode by there. In fact, whenever I was shopping in her part of town, I always half-feared, half-hoped I would run into her. I never did. I found her hubby's pic on the internet too, on his company's web site. I was so distressed about the whole thing that I 'fessed up, and she wasn't full-out angry at me, but she wasn't happy either. I never did tell her that I drove by her house, though I wanted to. I'm glad now that I didn't, b/c it probably would have freaked her out even more.
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<<<See, this is what I'm afraid of. I tell him that I'm not honest with him. I think he's getting the wrong idea. What I mean is that I withhold information like this (ie: that I google him, that I've seen a picture of his wife, that I still get nervous when I go to therapy). I think what he hears is that I lie. But, I'm afraid if I tell him that I may have found his home number, which he doesn't give out (because patients might call him at home just to chat, or so he says?), I'll have to tell him exactly how... including all the details aobut his wife... meaning I've seen a picture of his wife... which means I again feel guilty for not thinking he has a beautiful wife...Also, he knows that I've seen a pic of his wife... AGH!!!!
> Anyway, my point is, I would be willing to bet that you're not the first patient of his to google him. Nor are you the first patient to find out where he lives (I'm assuming that he's been in the business long enough to have had a few patients). So, no, you're not creepy. You're curious. Of course...why wouldn't you be? You are opening your life up to this person, yet you don't know much about him. Why wouldn't you try to find out, especially if you are internet-savvy?
><<Right, but I wonder if I am the first to find a picture of his wife? I really feel horrible about it....And he's relatively new at this, maybe in his mid 30's? So, if I admit to finding the pic of his wife, it opens the door to making comments about his wife. Usually I would say she is lovely, but if he makes me angry in the future, I would say she is not. And I wouldn't want to do that...
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> Just my experience. Don't feel bad for finding the info, but you'll have to follow your gut on how cool he is about you knowing personal stuff about him. How long have you been seeing him?
>I've been seeing him since February. I think I should tell him. I hate it, but what is the worst that can happen?
Famous words of the dead man.....
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