Posted by fallsfall on October 11, 2003, at 17:10:14
In reply to Re: Histories » fallsfall, posted by DaisyM on October 11, 2003, at 14:12:14
>>I failed by giving in to it and I'm failing daily by not being able to get over it.
Yes. So how are we supposed to feel good about ourselves?
>>The saddest part when I look at everything I've done successfully, is that, with the exception of my children, I'm not sure any of it matters. Because, even though I feel like I'm not doing things as well as I use to, no one seems to have noticed the slippage. Is that because "good enough" really is "good enough?" Or am I really that good at pretending to be OK? ARRGG, I hate feeling like this!!
Maybe your children are all that is supposed to matter?
I know that I pretend to be OK. And I fool most of the people most of the time. But that makes it harder for me, because they aren't seeing who I really am.
"Good Enough". My daughter was in 6th grade and was doing 6 hours of homework a night - a bit much. She is a perfectionist like me. It was clear that she was working too hard. I convinced her to put in 70% of the effort and see what happened. She still got A's. We still talk about this lesson and she is a Junior in college!
The question is "good enough" for who?
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