Posted by ridesredhorses on September 30, 2003, at 9:48:27
In reply to Trust - A therapy homework, posted by Dinah on September 29, 2003, at 13:19:46
I'm sorry you are stressed. Here is my question: to how many 'friends' does the 'average' person open his or her soul? I have a couple of long-time, close friends. We have been through allot together, and the journey has developed our closeness in the way that only shared transactions could. When I make new friends, I don't try to bring the transactions of the past into our relationship, unless in story sharing it is appropriate. Each new relationship has its own depth and potential. This is for me, not necessarily anyone else, ok? But I could never expect 'sue' to be able to understand the feelings and such that I share with 'betty' or 'tom' unless 'sue' was a part of what took place, too. And then, maybe 'sue' and 'betty' derived different things from the experience. So, It all depends on the individual relationship, after all. Does that make sense? I have shared too much with friends trying to force a relationship that was just not there...because I so wanted it to be there. For me, slow and observant is better. I can just barely accept myself most of the time' how can I expect everyone else to accept me, and how can I criticize them if they don't? They can't be mean or disrespectful to me, but they don't have to want to be close to me. Oh, I think I'll print this and pin a copy to my wall...I had no idea I had become so well adjusted!!!
Good luck.
Red
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