Posted by Tabitha on September 29, 2003, at 17:59:25
In reply to Trust - A therapy homework, posted by Dinah on September 29, 2003, at 13:19:46
Hmm, I don't know. I haven't had much success with applying therapist-type advice to do unusual things in relationships. Maybe if you're with someone who also has somewhat of a personal growth bent it might be interesting (or even successful). Otherwise, I'd be afraid of just seeming odd and frightening the person off. Or just putting too much pressure on the relationship.I get his point though, that it isn't necessarily good to just stop when you think you've found the boundary. After all, you might be mistaken, or there might be some other way around the roadblock, if you discuss it.
I don't know where therapists get these ideas. Maybe all their friends are therapists, and there's some alternate culture they inhabit where such tactics are common. OK, I think I sound a bit cynical right now. Probably shouldn't be sharing my opinion.
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