Posted by fallsfall on September 30, 2003, at 16:53:13
In reply to Re: OK. Now I'm sure of it. » jane d, posted by Dinah on September 30, 2003, at 7:27:02
People are not going to change overnight. And they aren't necessarily going to change drastically. I would expect to see a gradual change. Perhaps you have "the talk" (with whatever words you feel comfortable) one day, and then a couple of days later maybe you share something that is a little riskier than you have in the past, and then a week later, the other person shares something. I think it takes time for two reasons: first, it takes people time to process the idea that you are safe enough to be more intimate with, and second, you have to wait until the person has something of interest to share.
I think that you don't want the intimacy. Why not?
Just take it slow and let things build one step at a time.
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