Posted by Adia on September 12, 2003, at 21:57:09
In reply to Re: Adia--About that Little Girl » Adia, posted by HannahW on September 11, 2003, at 23:53:13
Dear Hannah,
Your post touched my heart...
tears...
I feel so touched that you shared with your sister...and that it means something to her and to you...
It really means so much to me too.
Thank you for saying the little girl in me deserves me to cry for her and to try to help her heal...
That brought tears to my eyes...Thank you for making me feel the little girl inside deserves love and healing...that is something I struggle to feel and find really hard to feel in my heart...
I was able to tell my therapist today that when she leaves me, it feels she's leaving the little girl in me at the mercy of someone hurting her..even though I know I am safe now...
I told her I feel like a little girl who's still being hurt and when I felt afraid of her leaving me, it was as though I were that little girl again terrified of being left alone at the mercy of bad things..
I will try to accept the help she is offering ..Thank you for sharing with me..I am really glad that you've tried to do the same for the little girl in you...
I've been reading what the others have shared..especially what Fallsfall shared..and it is sometimes hard to be in the adult and take care of the little girl inside...
I feel the little girl sometimes takes over and the need is so great and the hurt so deep that I can't go back to the adult or feel strong enough to protect her..when it seems I am living through her feelings...
but I guess that when that happens is that the little girl inside is just demanding to be heard and needs desperately to express her feelings and what's happening...Thank you for making me feel safe inside and for sharing with me..
You've touched my heart...
I'm moved that you shared with your sister...
:o) Heart smiles...Thank you for your support,
You've helped me try to break the silence a bit today...lots of support to you,
Adia.
> I called my sister tonight to tell her about you. She was really touched that what she has been through might be helpful to you. I'm going to print out your response for her to read, because I know it means a lot to her (and to me).
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> I've tried utilizing this idea myself, and really do find it to be therapeutic. I had kind of forgotten about it until you talked about the little girl inside you. I think there's a little girl inside all of us that needs a grown-up (ourselves) to take care of us. I think we have to be the grown-ups for our little girls, because no one else would be appropriate. We are the maternal guardians of those little girls, and they are our responsibility. Besides, no one can love our little girls like we can. (Just like no one can love our actual children like we can. It doesn't mean our children don't deserve love from other people, but because we're their maternal guardians, no one can love them better than we can, and no one knows them better than we do. It's exactly the same with the "little us's."
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> I'm reminded tonight that although I may not always feel like the Big Me is worthy and deserving, I know that the Little Me is. She's just an innocent little girl who deserves love and nurturing simply because she was born. I need to talk to her, love her, and reassure her that all the crummy things that have happened to her weren't her fault. And I need to be an advocate for her because she's too small and helpless to do it for herself. I need to stand up for her, refuse to let other people walk on her and make her feel worthless, and encourage her to be whoever she wants to be.
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> I'm not sure what time zone you're in, so I'll just send good thoughts your way for 3 hours! Your little girl is hurting and needs you to speak out for her. Be her advocate and make sure she gets the help she needs! Who else can speak for her but you? She needs you and is counting on you to cry for her and mourn everything that is getting in the way of her healing.
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> I hope I'm not being overly dramatic, but when I think of suffering children, I get a little weepy.
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> All the best to you tomorrow.
> Hannah
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