Posted by HannahW on September 11, 2003, at 19:02:13
Hi Adia--
My (adult) sister used to also talk about the little girl inside of her that just wanted someone to take care of her--but that there didn't ever seem to be anyone fully capable of doing it.
The solution that she found through her own therapy was to carry a picture of herself as a little girl in her wallet. She learned that she, as an adult, was now able to care for that little girl herself. In thinking of herself as the loving maternal figure of "Little Belinda" she was able to meet the needs of that little girl that no one else could. Whenever she knew that Little Belinda needed sheltering, or reassurance, or love, or ice cream, Big Belinda gave it to her, and it made Little Belinda feel safe to know that now there was finally an adult she could really trust to love her and meet her needs.
I thought it was really beautiful.
poster:HannahW
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