Posted by Adia on September 11, 2003, at 20:26:42
In reply to Adia--About that Little Girl, posted by HannahW on September 11, 2003, at 19:02:13
Dear Hannah,
You've touched my heart..Thank you for sharing with me...
This moved me to tears...:****)
What your sister learnt and does is very beautiful...It seems so healing to take with her a picture of herself as a little girl..and to give her love and the safety and caring she needs...It feels like such a healing, beautiful thing to do for the little girl inside.It touched my heart.
There is a hurt, scared little girl inside of me who just wants to curl up and cry and be held safely and gently and be told she's ok and safe...
and yes, no one will do that for her but me...I have heart tears that your sister learnt how...
you know what..lately I've tried to learn how to take care of that little girl inside instead of aching for someone else to take care of her and love her..In the past I used to make jigsaw puzzles to find shelter from what was happening...lately I've been going to toystores and I've bought some puzzles for her..And I bought some Cd's for children too...but it's hard to fill that emptiness inside..or find relief to that part of me that aches for safety and love and a safe hug to protect me...I still ache for that unconditional love or acceptance...
What you shared here is beautiful...I will try...
I am moved that your sister learnt how to reach
the little girl inside and meet her deepest needs...
Thank you so much for sharing this with me...It was so sweet and thoughtful of you to share...
It means much more than I could ever say.A heartfelt thank you....
It brought tears to my eyes.Adia.
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> My (adult) sister used to also talk about the little girl inside of her that just wanted someone to take care of her--but that there didn't ever seem to be anyone fully capable of doing it.
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> The solution that she found through her own therapy was to carry a picture of herself as a little girl in her wallet. She learned that she, as an adult, was now able to care for that little girl herself. In thinking of herself as the loving maternal figure of "Little Belinda" she was able to meet the needs of that little girl that no one else could. Whenever she knew that Little Belinda needed sheltering, or reassurance, or love, or ice cream, Big Belinda gave it to her, and it made Little Belinda feel safe to know that now there was finally an adult she could really trust to love her and meet her needs.
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> I thought it was really beautiful.
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