Posted by Dinah on May 9, 2003, at 23:55:23
In reply to Is anyone familiar with choice therapy?, posted by judy1 on May 9, 2003, at 22:46:24
I'm almost positive I read his book "Choice Theory : A New Psychology of Personal Freedom".
If I remember correctly, I really agreed with a lot of what he said. In fact, I don't know whether or not my therapist has studied the theory but he does operate on a similar set of beliefs, at least in part. Plus, it does fit my world view of free will and personal responsibility.
But I also think I recall that familiar sense of frustration that intellectual understanding didn't translate well into emotional understanding. And the familiar sense of self blame that I couldn't will myself better through thinking correctly.
It even sort of came up in therapy today. My therapist was expressing his frustration. He had explained something to me, I agreed in principle, and yet still I "chose" to make myself upset over it instead of letting it go. Yet, do other people really listen to something sensible, say "Oh, ok. You're right. I shouldn't feel that way." and then have their feelings obediently change with the insight? If so, then I am sadly lacking. At the very least, it takes a lot of repetition for me in various circumstances, and probably some positive emotional reinforcement. And even then I can't think myself out of some emotional difficulties. Not yet at least.
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