Posted by Ginjoint on March 19, 2003, at 8:17:27
In reply to Who runs this life? Me or therapist?, posted by Tabitha on March 19, 2003, at 3:46:49
Yo hey Tabitha...
Nope. No miracle drugs, no matter what the commercials say. I started Lexapro a few weeks ago, and it has definitely helped, although I'm having to go on it VERY gradually due to physical side effects.
This sounds so stupid and obvious, but the consistency of appointments is like a security blanket, and your therp should realize this. If she's listening to your concerns but not making any effort to change anything, then maybe you need to find other support. I don't mean changing therapists if you're not ready for that, but perhaps adding an extra ingredient to the soup. Buh-LIEVE me, Tabitha, I know what a humungous step this can be. For the life changes you are about to make, you need someone behind you...any hope for a group therapy setting?
You spoke of how you feel your relationship is falling apart...maybe it's time to be brutally honest (no time for politeness here) about this with your therapist and carefully gauge her reaction, both during and after the session. At any rate, there's no excuse for her shortening sessions. At all. That's YOUR time.
I'm glad that you have the confidence to trust your inner voice as to what's a good choice for you! If your therapist's track record has been nothing short of lousy, I'd say that inner voice is starting to look mighty wise, hm? Just because someone managed to land the job of therapist doesn't mean they've got a head on their shoulders. Do you have any other family or friends you can lean a bit on, or are you on the more isolated side of things? Either way, Tabitha, I wish I could treat you to drinks or coffee or whatever. You deserve a supportive ear. Please keep me posted.
Ginjoint
P.S. You touched upon another powerful issue -- what happens when we get "better?" No more therapy costs, but a trusted friend is lost. What a conundrum. I know we're supposed to have other friends in place by that time, but still...
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