Posted by terra miller on August 14, 2002, at 22:57:50
In reply to skewing negative, posted by .tabitha. on August 14, 2002, at 3:04:09
hi. if things aren't going emotionally and thinking-wise where they should be and i'm feeling overwhelmed or ... well, how you said it. this is what i do: i try to stop in my tracks mentally and pull everything in. i try to make my world smaller. then i can get more control. once i've got back on track, then i slowly let myself out further.
this would look practically like this: say i'm feeling weirded out at work with something a coworker said that made me wonder what she meant by it... then i may see that worker talking to somebody else and my mind starts going away from me- maybe she's talking about me/whatever.... you know, things you don't really know unless you ask directly (which i don't relish doing). anyway, usually i can recognize this, and it feels like i'm headed downhill like a snowball. so that's when i stop myself and regroup and make my world small and go backwards to what i know is good about me and why i like myself. then i move outward from that point until i get to where i'm thinking again about the coworker. often then i've regrouped and concluded that i could care less what the coworker thinks; and i can get clarification if i want or not want. ultimately it doesn't matter because i like me regardless of my circumstances.
but i have to go backward and find that sometimes. but once i find it, then i can rejoin my current situation and look at it much differently and without anxiety.
depression comes when i dwell on it too long without doing something about it.
that's how i handle it anyway.
~terra
poster:terra miller
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