Posted by Chris O on January 25, 2005, at 19:56:13
In reply to Re: Depressed after orgasm--anyone else get this?, posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 24, 2005, at 16:08:48
Miss Honeychurch:
It's probably too difficult to sort out here, on these boards. It would be impossible for me to write up my whole psychological history, much less convey it in a way that...makes sense. I know I do have a lot of psychological baggage related to sex, probably more than some, less than others. I had/have a troubled relationship with my mother, still lots of anger, resentment, sadness in relationsihp to her, stuff that never seems to get worked out, no matter what type of therapy or drug I try. I am involved in a stable long-term relationship, and I think our communication sexually is okay, though the excitement of sex seems to be...gone in many ways for me. It could be because we've been together for a while, because I'm anxious and depressed much of the time, I don't know. But...here's what I mean about the physiology/sex/depression/orgasm thing:
If I get sexually aroused but do not have an orgasm, I do not get all these feelings--hopeless,
depression, etc. It's the orgasm itself, whatever happens physiologically during that process, that brings these feelings on. It's not unbearable; it's not like I want to commit suicide, it's just a general feeling of "blah." And it's not just the fact that I'm a guy and I get tired/sleepy after having an orgasm--it's beyond tired and sleepy. It's more like...a headache. It's more like the symptoms described in Chinese medicine where someone has lost too much semen--I think the DSM even includes that in the back with their "culturally-based conditions." Perhaps I really have masturbated too much, or had too much sex, or lost too much semen, I don't know. I doubt it, according to western standards as there have been periods of my life where sex was really not a part of it. But according to eastern standards, Chinese medicine standards, maybe something like that is going on. This is perhaps TMI, so, at any rate, it's probably something better worked out between myself and a therapist. I was just wondering if anyone else here, man or woman, had experienced something like this and if maybe neurotransmitters had been proven to be involved in the process of orgasm.Anyway, thanks for reading, Miss Honeychurch
Chris
> Chris,
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> Is this new or has it always happened to you?
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> I doubt this could be something physical. It's just semen, and neurotransmitters have nothing to do with that.
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> So it brings us the hypothesis that this could be psychological. Do you associate sex with negative things? Have you had bad experiences with sex in the past? None of my business, I know. I am just hard pressed to think of how it could be physical since your emotions afterward are so "emotional" (ie hopeless, etc) and not physical (ie in pain).
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> Thoughts?
poster:Chris O
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