Posted by gardenergirl on August 7, 2005, at 0:44:06
In reply to Re: please rephrase that, posted by rayww on August 6, 2005, at 14:07:35
> People of my faith believe, and I have learned from my own experience: (gosh I thought I already said that) those who indulge in sexual activity outside the bonds of marriage do irreparable damage to themselves and rob the one with whom they are involved of that which can never be restored.
I respect that this is centered in your faith. But I just need to tell you that my husband and I had premarital sex for several years before we got married. It's part of the overall intimacy we shared that allowed us to know for sure that we belong together and were committed to being together.
I just can't see any harm that came to either one of us from that.
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> But, how else are they going to know unless they are taught??? And, pardon me, but I can't see any way to rephrase something as basic and plain as that statement. Hello. It's true.Again, I respect that it is your truth, but my own truth is very different. And I felt a bit of a sting when I read that maybe I just need to be "taught" that my truth is wrong. I'm not sure if that is what you are saying here, but that's how I read it.
>>Maybe it was put too plainly? Could someone please help me out here? I will accept suggestions.
I think it's okay for you to say what you believe, but perhaps there needs to be explicit acknowledgement that others may believe differently? I don't know. It's part of why I don't post much on this board.
Take care,
gg
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