Posted by Lindenblüte on November 27, 2006, at 19:38:46
In reply to Re: please be civil » wishingstar, posted by Dr. Bob on November 27, 2006, at 17:25:36
Just throwing in a generic supportive voice. Please keep posting, and keep us updated on what you are struggling with. You deserve support, and many people really care for you. I hate to see you hurting, and I wish I knew what to write to make you feel better. I can only write little dumb words here. Maybe it changes how you think about something or maybe not. Maybe I can help you help yourself, or maybe not. Well, no matter what, I don't intend to make you feel worse. I just want what's best for you, that's all. I think there are a lot of people out there who want what's best for you.
It's really hard to get an idea of what would help any Babbler. The best information we have is what we choose to share with each other. Maybe I don't include everything that is relevant to my situation. Maybe I can't see the whole picture because I am too introspective, or near-sighted, or lack experience and knowledge. Sometimes I don't share stuff on Babble because I am scared of it, or because I don't want people to find out that I have ugly thoughts, that I have moments of weakness, and moments of insanity. Maybe I am very self-conscious and don't want people to think of me as mentally ill.
Whatever the reasons, no one will ever know exactly how to make you feel better. Especially on Psycho-babble, it's hard for me to figure out sometimes whether someone is asking for practical advice, hugs, unconditional support, or silliness. I try not to pretend that I know what someone NEEDS to do to feel better.
In general, though, there are people who are better trained than the average Psycho-Babbler to help and heal mental illness, pain, grief, somatic symptoms and the like. You know how much your p-doc has helped you. If you feel like you need even more help, or you are unsatisfied with behavior that seems out of your control-- perhaps it's time to ask for extra help.
You are reaching out for extra help to us psycho-babblers. That's really good Deneb. You recognize that you have a problem, and you seem motivated to feel better. You even asked others for help, and admitted to having disordered eating For a lot of us, THAT's the hard stuff. Maybe it comes more naturally to you, though-- even though you say that you're bad at communicating!
Ask yourself whether the support of psycho-babblers is helping you help yourself. If you're not satisfied with your progress in making yourself feel well, it may be time to enlist even more help. Demand more from your pdoc, be honest with her, and ask her to be there for you when you feel crisis coming. Maybe you can start fresh with a psychotherapist, or a counsellor, or clergy at your place of worship.
I just want you to feel better, and hopefully "recover" or go into remission, or whatever you want to call it when your behavior satisfies you as "normal".
your friend,
-Li
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