Posted by Meri-Tuuli on November 10, 2006, at 16:26:42
In reply to body and depersonalization, posted by Lindenblüte on November 8, 2006, at 22:00:31
Yeah its interesting, I recently have lost weight (I think you might already know this) but at vague times I got a little scared, because, well my mind couldn't adapt to the changes. I've wondered how must those people cope who have all that plastic surgery?
Is it like you're saying you don't want to get fitter/thinner/whatever because you don't want the (albeit) positive attention it receives? I guess there'll be new situations which might make you feel uncomfortable. Like some friends might feel threatened because suddenly you are fitter/thinner than them. I don't know..... hmmm....
But then, I'm guessing, you won't suddenly change overnight. Weight loss/getting fitter is rather slow, so you'll have plenty of time to get used to it....and the uncomfortable feelings it brings. But I suppose you can deal with them and process them and things like that?
Actually I'm the opposite. I've always been 'the thin one' - I hate putting on weight. Its really strange. Its not that I hate being plumper per se, its just its 'not me'. Ever since I was a wee kid, I was always the skinny one and I somehow don't feel 'myself' when I'm plumper. I don't identify with it somehow. People have always made lots of comments about my body, when you're skinny people think its okay to comment, but its not. When I was a teenager it really got to me - I ate loads - but still, everyone commented. If I'd been fat, however, I bet no-one would have said a peep! Because I've always had a fair amount of attention because of my body, I guess I've got used to it; the comments you describe don't really bother me. A lecturer felt my butt in a bar once and it didn't bother me too much! Although we were both pretty drunk and we were very fond of each other.
Perhaps you're afraid of the change and what it will mean to be a new you.
Anyway, we're both 5'10 !! How cool.
M
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