Posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 2:03:07
In reply to Re: posters who could use support » Dr. Bob, posted by Phillipa on July 7, 2013, at 21:06:44
> I am personally very appreciative that you have begun moderating a bit once again. I realize that it is impossible to get it right in everyone's eyes all the time, but I do appreciate the effort. Occasional might be the way to go, because I do think people remember when they have been given a PBC.
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> On another thread, you asked if we could commit to posting more on Psychology and Social if you commit to more moderating. I think that's very fair. It is a bit hard to post personal or therapy-related messages on Psychology if they just end up unaknowledged and sitting there all by themselves, but I will do my best. My therapy is now much less intensive than it once was, but I am willing to try if, say, Dinah would do it a bit also!
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> TwinleafThanks! I know it can be hard to post and not get any replies. One thing posters can do if they don't feel up to starting a thread is to make sure posts by others aren't unacknowledged.
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> And do you take responsibility when people do leave? When the pain here is too great, or the rewards not high enough to put up with the costs? Do you see that as a loss? Do you *feel* that loss?
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> I've always said that Babble couldn't be all things to all people. That you were *always* making choices about which type of people Babble would be for. I appreciated that in the wild west of the internet, Babble was a place for those who did value civility, who did look for someplace relatively safe.
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> Perhaps part of what I feel now is anger and hurt that you've made the choice to bring Babble in a new direction and appeal to a different group of posters. As if the ones who wish for civility and safety aren't the ones you're choosing now. Babble used to be welcoming, and is no longer.
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> DinahI agree, Babble can't be all things to all people. I could focus on the people it helps and feel good, or on the people it doesn't and feel bad. I'd rather feel good. Or, it's inevitable that people aren't helped, so if that happens, I may allow myself not to feel bad, but it's not inevitable that people are helped, so when that happens, I may allow myself to feel good.
If a model is unsustainable, is change a choice? Also, maybe what was needed in the Wild West isn't what's needed in the suburbs.
I don't want to leave old posters behind. I want them to join me in moving forward.
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> the answer to your question to me is I think it's unfair as I did nothing but try. How do I feel? I used to feel hurt but no longer cause I can't change what some decided to think & feel. If I go by what's written about me ...
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> PhillipaWhat I was thinking was, if you feel hurt reading what others write, could you stop reading? You can't change what they think or feel or write, but you can change what you read (and maybe think and feel).
Bob
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