Posted by SLS on December 17, 2010, at 17:26:27 [reposted on December 18, 2010, at 15:33:42 | original URL]
In reply to , posted by on December 31, 1969, at 18:00:00
Hi.
> Maybe if gggg123 said, "I Thought you were quite rude to me", or, "It seemed like you were being rude to me", he would have just gotten a warning?
"Rude" is a word indicating a judgment of character or intent, usually used pejoratively, and is taken to be a form of assault.
Maybe say something like this: "I was angered by the words you chose to use towards me. I felt attacked.
Maybe say nothing at all? This is sometimes a very sensible tactic to prevent escalation and retaliation. However, if no one were to ever offer feedback regarding another's behaviors, learning opportunities may be left unrealized. Then again, silence can be the most persuasive argument. My feeling is that none of us has a duty to comment on or attempt to correct the behaviors of others.
- ScottSome see things as they are and ask why.
I dream of things that never were and ask why not.
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