Posted by Solstice on December 4, 2010, at 18:46:40
In reply to Re: solstice, and everyboddy really, me too :), posted by muffled on December 4, 2010, at 15:01:29
> Many thanks.
> But see, thats the thing, you getting invested... :(
> You bringing emotions(which confuse me no end, I s'posed to learn bout them tho) into it. I not so sure you read things right IMHO,That's certainly possible. We all interpret things based on our past experiences. So at times I very well may not 'read' thing they way they were intended. I also think others don't always 'read' me accurately.
> but I could be wrong.....but see thats the 'invested' part, people get 'invested' in something and it skews their perceptions, they start to see things different....and not always for the best I afraid...cuz they got this investment...ugh, I not saying it well am I?You're saying it just fine... I've developed a particular affection for the way you say things.
> I think you need, in this admin situ anyways, to just let go of them emots stuff. Cuz you goto keep your eyes on the fries as they say.I'll try to see where I might have this 'investment' you talk about, but am not recognizing it.
> Sides, sure nuff Bobbo gonna start to throwin about PBC's if you don't watch it!!! then the poo flies I gotta tell ya!!! DUCK! It hard here to know when the poo gonna fly :(
> Cuz people gonna feel strong, and the darn words SO easily get 'read' wrong cuz thats the nature of words.
> I not so clear on the cursed civility rules, they also confuse me no end....and I absolutely do not mean to fuss you, but sigh...I fear you may have run afoul of them above....see, in my understanding, you not allowed to say what you did....I think. Bob will wan you to rephrase it.I hope I haven't' run afoul of them... but I guess we'll see :-). I sure don't have any feelings of incivility behind anything I've said. But if I did, I'll deal with that bridge when I cross it.
> So when here I just try and assume everyboddy means for the best, and it NOT personal to me or you.....it just a thrashing thru of ideas.That's the way I see it. I really don't think of ideas as parts of me. The thrashing thru of ideas has been a part of my professional life for many years. When I was a very young adult I was probably attached to my ideas.. but good god, ideas now are like a bag of M&M's - too many of them to get very attached to - and they sure don't last long enough for it to be worth getting too attached to.
> And yeppers, someboddy always gonna feel kinda so so if theys ideas aren't taken,For me.. it's not the rejection of my ideas that makes me feel bad. It's when I feel misunderstood, mischaracterized, or things that are not consistent with my own set of life 'codes and policies' are (or seem to be) attributed to me. I've been thru enough of life to have learned to not mind when I'm confronted with an error I made. I can own it and do something constructive with it. It's different, though, if I'm confronted about an action attributed to me that I did Not 'do'.
Your point about the difficulty interpreting the written word, especially in an anonymous internet community is well taken. It's really complicated. That's why civility guidelines are so crucial. One thing that contributes to the problem is that with all the posts, it's easy to misunderstand something because we sometimes miss other posts that would have clarified it - and we react too quickly to something we've misunderstood. So you are very right about it being best to give people the benefit of the doubt, to interpret things as generously as possible (my rephrse of what I think you said :-)
Thanks for your input, Muffled. You really are a joy. I had fun with the images your carrying on about flying poo conjured up for me.
Sol.
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