Posted by muffled on December 4, 2010, at 15:01:29
In reply to Re: solstice, and everyboddy really, me too :), posted by Solstice on December 4, 2010, at 12:23:10
> You are very kind, Muff.. and your posts are awfully fun to read. Just delightful! :-)
>
> I'm not really frustrated with it moving slow.. but there are things I find myself having trouble with:
> - when I feel misunderstood
> - when I feel attacked for having said/thought things I didn't say or think
> - when people make wrong assumptions about me, and then act as if those assumptions are fact
> - when others seem to get upset with me because of what they think I mean or think, without first having clarified whether I mean or think. They just jump to conclusions. Maybe that's the same as the one above?
> - and finally... I don't mind my ideas being rejected, but when it feels like the very sharing of my ideas is unwelcome, then *I* feel unwelcome. And right now I do feel very unwelcome.
>
> Never by you tho, Muffled. :-) And for that I thank you.
>
> Sol.
>
>Many thanks.
But see, thats the thing, you getting invested... :(
You bringing emotions(which confuse me no end, I s'posed to learn bout them tho) into it. I not so sure you read things right IMHO, but I could be wrong.....but see thats the 'invested' part, people get 'invested' in something and it skews their perceptions, they start to see things different....and not always for the best I afraid...cuz they got this investment...ugh, I not saying it well am I?
I think you need, in this admin situ anyways, to just let go of them emots stuff. Cuz you goto keep your eyes on the fries as they say.
Sides, sure nuff Bobbo gonna start to throwin about PBC's if you don't watch it!!! then the poo flies I gotta tell ya!!! DUCK! It hard here to know when the poo gonna fly :(
Cuz people gonna feel strong, and the darn words SO easily get 'read' wrong cuz thats the nature of words.
I not so clear on the cursed civility rules, they also confuse me no end....and I absolutely do not mean to fuss you, but sigh...I fear you may have run afoul of them above....see, in my understanding, you not allowed to say what you did....I think. Bob will wan you to rephrase it. Eg,"when I feel attacked", he will proly want you to say something more along the lines of....crap this is confusing...but....hmmmmm....ok "sometimes I feel like people don't want me here", kinda like saying how you feel w/o directing it in such a way that someone will grab the fact that you feel attacked and think it is directed at them, and then THEY gert mad, cuz you saying they attacked you, and really, like as not, they didn't mean it that way (accursed words!). So this be a heads up for ya! Welcome to babble....
So when here I just try and assume everyboddy means for the best, and it NOT personal to me or you.....it just a thrashing thru of ideas.
And yeppers, someboddy always gonna feel kinda so so if theys ideas aren't taken, it kinda human nature that!!! LOL!!
I think if you wanto work on this, and you DO NOT have to, you gonna have to try and let the emotions stuff go.
Which for some ain't easy. LOL, for me it is lotsa times cuz I got parts whats got no emotions.
So, I dunno the dynamics, cuz I get confused, but I think it just ya, you got good ideas, and you got the smarts and stuff...but LOL, maybe people getting overwhelmed some, cuz no everyboddy can think fast and assimilate stuff as fast as someone(you) who is gifted in that way.
Its good people here, seriously.
Its just plain ol words is hard.
Change is hard.
The time lag is hard.
We all strugglin.
Just, I hope you don't get tied up in emotions over this sol, cuz there a chance you just gonna be spinning your wheels w/ol Bob.
So, I leery for sure of alla this.....
Take it slow ;-) would be my advice, and I am SURE "I" know best!! ROFL!!!
I hope everybody can be chillin.
Cuz we alls want the same.
To be accepted. To not get hurt. To have meaningful interations. To dabble with some deeper thots, to be 'known' by others, etc etc.
We all hurting.
So, LOL!!! Lets pile on the happy stuff!
Cuz we all not so differeent after all...
Hang in there...!
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