Posted by Dr. Bob on July 8, 2010, at 4:31:50
In reply to Re: what's deemed civil or uncivil » Dr. Bob, posted by violette on July 7, 2010, at 2:16:57
> your perception of uncivility does not encompass covert uncivility that hurts actual 'people. ... when a person is directly hurt, you overlook it because you do not 'see' why.
Are you saying I should consider more posts uncivil?
> when others react in certain ways, such as feeling belittled, that could indicate that the writer was using that tone-perhaps unknowingly. And, from my experience, if a sensitive someone's reaction ends up being evidently hurt, they are probably reacting to uncivil intent--or language written that way-rather than being 'too sensitive'.
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> You do not notice this--and this is not a safe place for those who do.No system can prevent all hurt. How might a community respond when members inevitably feel hurt?
Bob
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