Posted by alexandra_k on August 8, 2009, at 1:36:00
In reply to Re: make change, posted by Dr. Bob on August 7, 2009, at 21:32:17
> I don't see apologizing after being uncivil as analogous to bleaching one's skin. Unless being uncivil is as central to their identity as race...
The point of the analogy is that in each of those cases what the person was doing was something that we typically think is allowable or acceptable and well within their rights as a human being. Other people attempt to get them to change - and the idea here is that sometimes the best way to support a person in this kind of position is NOT to try and get them to tow some line that you don't really believe in. Rather, it is an attempt to get the stupid rules changed. Similarly... Many people feel that you block people here for unjustifyable reasons. They think that you attempt to get posters to alter the way they express themselves when you really aren't justified in doing so. They think that your penalties are too harsh for people who don't or won't tow your line.
For example:
> You might feel that way, but I might feel accused of not hearing or understanding. Those statements are more about me (whether I hear and understand) than you (how you feel). Again, seeAnd really, what is so bad about that? You are very idiosyncratic in what you determine might lead someone to feel accused etc. Very idiosyncratic indeed. If there were an accepted standard on norms of self expression (ie one that other clinicians could grasp too) then things would be better... But a block of up to one year for something that nobody else has a problem with except you??? Give me a break...
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