Posted by Dr. Bob on December 22, 2008, at 3:33:04
In reply to an imbalance..., posted by twinleaf on December 21, 2008, at 11:36:49
> Slap me in the face yet keep me from discussing the source of the pain.
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> I haven't yet heard - what a surprise - from the emails that I've sent Dr Bob on this very subject and others.> This is no place to be when you're really hurting, that's for sure. All you get is a reminder that the guidelines must be followed, no matter what the depth of your own pain may be.
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> PartlycloudyI apologize for taking so long to reply. And I'm sorry you've been feeling so triggered.
Posters who are hurting may get reminders about the guidelines, but I think they usually get some support here, too. But I think it can be difficult to discuss hurt when the "source" is seen as another poster. It might help to process something that happens, but might polarize the community, too.
Also, please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused (for example, of slapping you in the face).
> a poster had caused further pain in a private email.
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> twinleafI appreciate the reminder to be empathic and caring, but please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused (for example, of causing pain).
But please don't take this personally, either, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're bad people.
More information about posting policies and tips on alternative ways to express oneself are in the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
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