Posted by twinleaf on December 21, 2008, at 14:49:15
In reply to Re: an imbalance... » twinleaf, posted by seldomseen on December 21, 2008, at 12:43:34
I knew "mandate" was not the right word as soon as I wrote it! But I didn't take the time to find a word which would better reflect my meaning. I meant something more like readers feeling empathy for posters who are weathering crises, and wanting to show their support and caring. I didn't mean that that is required or expected, but just that it often happens, and can be very valuable and helpful.
People in pain wouldn't post here at all if they did not have some expectation of warmth, care and understanding from others who have *known* them here for years.As far as intent, I, also, do not believe deputies have anything other than the best intentions when they apply civility rules. But there is sort of disconnect which has occurred here many times- the deputies administer the guidelines appropriately, and with the best of intentions, but the poster on the receiving end often feels hurt. That just occurred here with Partly, and it occurred with SSSS only about ten days ago. I simply made the suggestion that the guidelines be administered as usual- no changes needed there- but that a phrase or two of empathy about each situation be included. I know all the deputies have done that it in past- 10der comes to mind especially for being very sensitive to posters' feelings and for expressing that very well in her PCBs and blocks, but all of the deputies do it very well. I do think that an empathic, sensitive phrase or two accompanying each guideline action, tailored to the situation, will prevent a lot of the anger and hurt we are seeing now.
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