Posted by JLx on August 25, 2007, at 8:06:43
In reply to Re: Redirect a thread and the 'Eating Forum' » JLx, posted by Racer on August 24, 2007, at 23:07:50
> > About a book such as "Rethinking Thin".
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> That was a moving post. And I started a post on the Books board about "Rethinking Thin," some time back with very little response. Here's a link: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/books/20061001/msgs/765552.htmlSorry, I didn't notice it, which is kind of my point.
> Those were my words you quoted in your post. I'm very sorry that you were hurt by it.
I noted already that I didn't take it personally.
>My purpose was to try to analyze why I was so uncomfortable with gaining weight, what did gaining weight mean to me, that would make me fear and dread it so much, and hate so much living in this body? Maybe a thread about where I learned this would be more helpful to me, maybe not, but I suspect that still won't be what you need.
I understood that. My point in mentioning it was in how language and a difference in perspective can be within the context of people having "issues with food".
> I'm sorry now that I lobbied for an Eating Disorders board in the first place. It seems as though it's led to more bad feelings than anything helpful to anyone here.
I'm responsible for my own feelings! :) As I've noted above, it's my choice to click on the board or not.
Perhaps the board should just be renamed to "Eating Disorders" with a differently worded explanation than the current verbiage "issues with food".
People who have been through treatment and some therapists/websites too may refer to compulsive overeating as an eating disorder but most people think "Anorexia and bulimia" when they hear "Eating Disorder". And while the underlying causes, child sex abuse for instance, may be similar in all, the manifestations are so different, how common of a language can we have? Especially since recovery is necessarily less concerned with the past than the here and now. Compulsive overeaters and binge eating disorder sufferers who have become fat are always going to have to be concerned about food in terms of restriction and probably weight loss too, for instance, and are apt to use language and need to talk in ways that may be problematical to those with different eating disorder concerns. Reading the current board has convinced me of that.
None of the current boards have subsets, but I think a breakdown of Eating Disorders into "Anorexia/Bulimia" and "Compulsive overeating/Binge eating" would be the most workable. An alternative might be to ask people to designate their own threads more explicitly when they start them. An "I feel so fat" (Compulsive overeater) and "I feel so fat" (Anorexic), for instance. That seems cumbersome and I'm not entirely sure how healthy it is to define oneself in such categories, however.
We're doing that already though in having an Eating board. And I think such a board is a good idea. There are people who simply want to lose some pounds or who want to just improve their diet for various health reasons and then there are people who have serious issues concerning and surrounding food. Being one of the latter talking to people who are the former can be a very alienating-type experience. There's such comfort and other benefits to be gained from flocking together with your own kind of bird, not just anything-that-flies.
JL
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