Posted by All Done on January 21, 2007, at 22:25:01
In reply to Re: Please be civil » Dinah, posted by Fallen4MyT on January 21, 2007, at 20:22:30
Fallen,
I guess I just want to say that adding "I feel" to the beginning of a sentence does not necessarily make it an acceptable "I" statement under Dr. Bob's civility guidelines.
For example, can you see the difference between the two statements:
I feel Poster X was hurtful to me.
vs.
I feel hurt by Poster X's words.
The first statement is in effect calling Poster X a hurtful person. The second statement refers to *my* reaction to whatever Poster X wrote.
I don't know if this helps at all, but it's my understanding of "I" statements and how Dr. Bob might like to see them, FWIW.
Laurie
> Oh you are so right Dinah . How should I have put it so that YOU would not issue a PBC? Are you`feeling putdown or accused? I am so sorry.
>
> As I DID just state how I FEEL based in HFs statements that that is how she felt YES I will ask Dr Bob to look this over...But thank you so much for pointing this out.
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