Posted by Dr. Bob on November 27, 2006, at 1:14:12
In reply to Re: How to Support and Help » Dr. Bob, posted by SatinDoll on November 26, 2006, at 20:54:27
> > > When you posted on the cancer board, did you have cancer? Do you think that has anything to do with why people became upset there?
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> I thought that was OK, because I was not saying there was anything wrong with a behavior ... I was trying to help, by asking a question I thought might help clarify the "lesson" from that site.
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> Is there a way I could have presented that which would have been more appropriate? Or is that something I shouldn't try to express at all?I'm afraid that could have lead Deneb to feel blamed or accused -- of having had something to do with why people became upset. So that may be a "lesson" that isn't appropriate here.
> Of course, I could have said something much more straightforward, like, "No, no one is saying you have to 'suffer in silence' here." Hm...
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> RacerYes, that would've been more civil. :-)
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> I truely thought my post WAS civil, and I don't know if the warning was for me directly ... If you know a better way to get my point across without risking myself getting blocked for being honest,while still keeping the message intact, I would like to see it done.
I don't know if gg had you in mind, but for example:
> I had a friend in highschool who used to do things to get attention from others, nothing excluded what she would do, she was ALWAYS sick with some imagined illness and it ruined our friendship because I couldn't continue to play "the game".
could be rephrased as:
> I had a friend in highschool who seemed to like to get attention from others, she was ALWAYS sick with some illness and I couldn't continue our friendship because I got burned out.
Back to you:
> I think it would also helpful if you write something on how to ACCEPT help and support when given, even if it isn't what they want to hear
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> SatinDollDid anyone ever give you "help and support" that you didn't want to hear? Do you think you should've accepted it? If so, what would've helped you do that?
Thank you both for being interested in feedback,
Bob
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