Posted by Estella on May 13, 2006, at 23:48:28
In reply to Re: verne's block - taking responsibility, posted by madeline on May 13, 2006, at 14:37:30
> ****Because people don't just get blocked when someone IS offended... People get blocked because Bob judges that people *possibly could* feel offended. Of course people *could* take offence at anything and everything. So Bob uses his judgement... Hmm. And it is that that I am questioning.****
> One post ago, you agreed that Dr. Bob's interpretation was just as valid as anyone else's.You said:
>> ...Dr. Bob's interpretations and the deputy's interpretations are just as valid as anyone.
I said:
>right. but bob's interpretations...
are the ones that really matter.
>with respect to being exiled etc etc.And thus whether other people have a valid point or not really doesn't matter at all. Like how Bob could see Auntiemel's and Jyl's point... But preferred his alternative point of view... And went on his merry way (as he does).
> ****though that isn't quite right...
> it is that (to adapt what you said a bit)
> 'People learn how to express their hurts without the POSSIBILITY of others feeling hurt, offended, or belittled, or they are excluded...'****
> Yes, that's right. We must express it without the possiblility of people getting hurt. That is the essence of civility.'Civility' as the term is used by Bob...
Or 'Civility' as the term is used in the dictionary?
There are things that are okay on the boards that aren't really civil in the latter sense.
There are things that are not okay on the boards that are civil in the latter sense.You can't rule out the *possibility* of people being hurt. People can (as a matter of fact) feel hurt in response to fairly much anything.
It is surely possible that my post brings up stuff for someone...
And that they feel hurt in response to that...
Does that mean I am at fault and I need to change my behaviour to come into line?
Have I done anything wrong?
> *****But good decent loving people... Are blocked****
> But they can come back. It's their choice.Right.
But why would you?
Come back to be at the whim of Dr Bob's mood (or something). To never know when the next exile is coming from...
Blocks can hurt so much that that hurt can counterbalance the good...
So when you weigh whehter you are better off posting or leaving...
It can be a hard decision.
I love this place.
But I don't want to live in terror.
poster:Estella
thread:636780
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20060412/msgs/643721.html