Posted by Estella on May 13, 2006, at 14:22:46
In reply to Re: verne's block - taking responsibility » Estella, posted by madeline on May 13, 2006, at 9:55:11
> ******ah. so they come into line or they get exiled...
> how about their hurts???*****
> YES! That is exactly it!! People learn how to express their hurts without hurting, offending or belittling others, or they are excluded from the discourse. That is exactly right!!!though that isn't quite right...
it is that (to adapt what you said a bit)
'People learn how to express their hurts without the POSSIBILITY of others feeling hurt, offended, or belittled, or they are excluded...'Because people don't just get blocked when someone IS offended... People get blocked because Bob judges that people *possibly could* feel offended. Of course people *could* take offence at anything and everything. So Bob uses his judgement... Hmm. And it is that that I am questioning.
How many ACTUAL people get harmed because Bob is worried about POSSIBLE people (who might not even exist). He rates them highly (probably because they justify his decision). But how about the harm to the ACTUAL people?
> Now, I am probably one the biggest anti-authority, anti-establishment persons on the planet. People in power are to be checked and mistrusted at every turn. Abuse of power happens.> But I really don't think that is what is happening on these boards.
So you have suspended your mistrust...
Now someone said this to me back in the old days... And I was mad about it and I thought they were wrong. But someone said to me... To give it time. And I hated it at the time. But now... Well... That is what I say to you. Give it time. And you will see that good, decent, loving people who don't hurt anyone (aside from maybe being a little harsh with their opinions - but then you should hear their reasons... But good decent loving people... Are blocked. Because of some vague possibility that only Bob can comprehend. Just wait till it happens to you or someone you care about. Eventually... I anticipate a change in tune...
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