Posted by madeline on May 13, 2006, at 9:55:11
In reply to Re: verne's block - taking responsibility » madeline, posted by Estella on May 13, 2006, at 3:58:04
If after the warnings, the poster still can't <<<see that their posts aren't being interpreted the way they see them, then a block might be in order to help the person reflect on how they express themselves and that it may be hurting others.>>>>
******ah. so they come into line or they get exiled...
how about their hurts???*****YES! That is exactly it!! People learn how to express their hurts without hurting, offending or belittling others, or they are excluded from the discourse. That is exactly right!!!
It happens IRL and it SHOULD happen here as well. We can be horribly, terribly, irreparably hurt, but that never gives us the right to hurt other people.
Is it a perfect system? no. Nothing is ever perfect. Who decides what hurts others? Dr. Bob and the deputies.
The blocks and PBCs aren't designed to be punitive, but rather to help us control HOW we interact with others.
Now, I am probably one the biggest anti-authority, anti-establishment persons on the planet. People in power are to be checked and mistrusted at every turn. Abuse of power happens.
But I really don't think that is what is happening on these boards.
We have ultimate control here. WE control what we say or don't say. We control how we say it and when.
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