Posted by Dinah on July 29, 2005, at 4:45:31
In reply to Re:Another idea, posted by Dr. Bob on July 29, 2005, at 1:06:38
Well, it's your call of course. But reassurances from other posters can seem more like comaraderie than actual reassurance, you know. Sometimes the mere reminder there is a strong hand on the tiller (whatever on earth that means) from the leader is more reassurance than any those hunkered down together can give.
Also...
I'm sure you don't mean it to be, but both your "Best wishes" see post to Ron above, and your "Two wrongs don't make a right" can sound a bit dismissive to those whose emotions may be running a bit high. And I think there are those here, myself included, who will never be persuaded that walking away and leaving others to take care of the wounded is ok because the responsibility is diffused and they don't have to.
How about people look to gather examples of situations where support is given without escalation of the drama triangle, or without making a second wrong. I'll bet lots of people can remember their own favorite example of being impressed by someone managing to do that.
Then you can look at them all and come up with a list of suggestions or even just a list of links, that you can offer to people for guidance when they don't wish to ignore someone feeling hurt, but do wish to intervene in a "legal" way if possible.
I understand your desire to do as little as possible, and I think your wish to remain as little a part of what goes on here other than as an administrator is both... Well, ok. I was going to validate a bit here, but honestly I think it's sort of a loss to us Babblers and maybe to you as well. But I do understand it as well.
But even so, a little validation goes a long way, Dr. Bob, if other posters are anything like me.
By the way. Regarding Best wishes. I wonder if I am alone in thinking that Best wishes sounds like "Don't let the door hit you on the rear as you exit."
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