Posted by Dr. Bob on July 29, 2005, at 1:06:38
In reply to Re:Another idea, posted by alexandra_k on July 27, 2005, at 17:58:59
> notification on the Admin board of posting under a new name... I sort of think ought to be formal notification in the subject line, not just mentioned in a post somewhere.
That's a good idea, thanks.
> How about in times like this, in the future, if you address the board, or respond to distressed posters, reassuring them that you are ok, the board is in no danger, and that you would prefer to handle things yourself. Or something validating how frustrating it is to feel (xxx - insert appropriate feeling), but telling them something reassuring or warning or whatever.
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> Or maybe to remind people that certain feelings can be contained in different ways. For example, if someone feels like the mouse tied to the end of those sticks they sell in toy stores, one way to regain control is to refuse to play and walk away. Or if someone is feeling protective, one way to respond is to support the person they feel protective of, without actually mentioning anyone else or the behavior of anyone else.> Chuckle.
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> I'll bet you think I'm asking you to expand your role here at Babble, by calling you a leader as well as an administrator or moderator.
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> Dinah> I agree that it is hard when people post things like that about the boards. This has happened before though... Posters managed to reassure each other that things were okay. I think we should have faith that things are okay. Especially those of us who have been here for a while.
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> alexandra_kSometimes I think the less I do, the better. I like the idea of posters reassuring, validating, and reminding each other...
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> I don't mind co-existing with people who have different outlooks and beliefs than I do
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> But I DO mind co-existing with people who seem unwilling to debate in a logical fashion, or who seem to enjoy stirring up trouble simply for the sake of the trouble, or with people who are just jerks.I agree, the latter can be more of a challenge...
> Imagine a kid on the playground who is tossing stones at another kid... I could easily walk away, unharmed. But something about the situation impels me to do something and stop the stone-throwing.
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> JenStarYes, it's a fraught situation. First, I think it's OK to walk away. "Diffusion of responsibility" can be an advantage of groups. Are there other options, too? Given that (1) only deputies and I can really stop them and (2) two wrongs don't make a right?
Bob
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