Posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2005, at 16:01:09
In reply to Please, everyone . . ., posted by TamaraJ on July 9, 2005, at 11:23:40
> > And if he does return, is there some way to try to keep this from happening again?
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> Absolutely -- I won't be coming back to Babble.
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> emI'd like people to feel free to come and go. OTOH, I value you, too, and hope you don't leave because of this. I think there's something to be said for working out ways to co-exist. But I know it can be hard.
> It is clear that the rules, in some instances, can pit posters again posters... Nobody should be leaving because of disagreements over the enforcement of the rules, but, unfortunately, it is happening and has happened, and that is a bloody shame.
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> I have always found that people of all ages learn more valuable and lasting lessons in civility, decorum and appropriate/acceptable behaviour by being given the opportunity to correct their behaviour immediately
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> TamaraI think rules and their enforcement are part of it, but not all of it. People will sometimes pit themselves against each other no matter what the circumstances. And posters already have the opportunity to revise their behavior immediately.
> I think the issue is more around what all of us can do to prevent situations escalating so that people end up being blocked. Sometimes people do post things warning others to be careful or whatever. A well timed apology can work wonders. Maybe we need to do this more.
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> alexandra_kI do think that's one strategy. It's another way of taking care of each other.
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> I need to protect myself and the only way to do that is not talk to any one that also posts on the 'other site.'
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> AuntieMelPsych Central? I'd be curious how you think it might be related to this. If you'd feel comfortable sharing. Speaking of co-existing, that may also apply to John and me...
Bob
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