Posted by AuntieMel on March 17, 2005, at 10:57:47
In reply to Re: but we can do some of that now » AuntieMel, posted by Toph on March 16, 2005, at 22:22:52
1) this place is ultimately an experiment, so let's experiment (unless someone is destined to get hurt, of course).
Life is an experiment, all net forums are experiments, we experiment with meds, therapies and alternative treatments .....
But many are drawn to here instead of 'brand x' because of the feeling of comfort and safety, because real lives are in turmoil and a constantly changing babble would be too much to handle.
2) a rigid, externally controlled group is severely handicapped in developing all the benefits of a positive group dynamic.
We are all suffering from varying degrees of different mental conditions. Aren't we already handicapped when it comes to group dynamics?
I personally like having a 'controlled' way to work on how I relate to other people. If it were left up to other posters to tell me when I was wrong - well I'd never know if it is me or them with the problem. While the punishments may (and do) seem unfair at times the *concept* of what is acceptable and what is not is pretty constant. It doesn't change based on personalities, time of year, weather or phase of the moon.
How many of us had problems with constantly changing or unrealistic expectations while growing up? How many were unaccepted because of being 'different' for some reason or another? I fit both of those - and am grateful I don't see it here.
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