Posted by Toph on March 16, 2005, at 22:22:52
In reply to Re: but we can do some of that now » Toph, posted by AuntieMel on March 16, 2005, at 16:27:08
> But there isn't usually any administrative action if there is an apology.
I really don't know but I suspect that there have been instances when a sincere apology has been ignored.
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> And a PBC amounts to the same as saying you weren't playing nice.I agree. I admit that I was relieved to receive one or two of those when I was cringing about a consequence.
Has Bob ever asked or assisted two posters who have let their differences get the better of them to find a way of reconciling, compromising or fostering each to repect those differences?
Having asked this , it dawns on me that I am giving two conflicting messages. One, for Bob to butt out and let us try to run the asylum, while, two, asking Bob to open up his role as more of a facilitator of positive group dynamic. Either way its a win, win, as I see it.
Some thoughts:
1) this place is ultimately an experiment, so let's experiment (unless someone is destined to get hurt, of course).
2) a rigid, externally controlled group is severely handicapped in developing all the benefits of a positive group dynamic.
3) people can be very comfortable with a less than optimal environment and resist any change.
4) it's easy for me to suggest change without knowing exactly how to implement it, sorry.
Toph
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