Posted by spoc on June 26, 2004, at 10:29:38
In reply to perhaps a different view? » spoc, posted by karen_kay on June 26, 2004, at 9:26:35
... I just enjoy theory, ethics, looking at components of situations, that kind of stuff. There's a field day of it on Admin right now. I'd like to comment more in places (and may), but worry that it may not come across that it's theory I enjoy, not conflict.
> but, if nothing's going to be done about it, why not just avoid the things that make you uncomfortable? i've been doing it and it works out great for me.
<<<<<<< Absolutely! Somewhere up there, I think it was on the first Admin thread about this, I said the same thing, in response to GG's comment about again being a moth to the flame.
I wasn't involved in those Psych threads nor emotionally invested in their subject matter, but feel that's an often useful place to comment from. In my last post, I guess what I wanted to do (in as few words as possible, since it's tricky to discuss "correctly") was encourage the hurt people to see yet another dimension to why they felt that way. They had identified plenty already, but I thought the one I mentioned might be a specific nuance/technique of delivery to be aware of. Because when that's what's behind something, I know I immediately realize that the last thing I want to do is let it succeed, see the smirk get bigger. Realizing it may indeed be a technique reduces its power, and makes me feel much stronger and in control. Sometimes I can genuinely smirk/laugh back.
While I do endorse ignoring things we don't want to see (not that I'm so good at it myself), I got the idea that Dr. Bob may genuinely think the intentions were good, and thought I'd give my 2 cents on that, just for the record, for its own sake. Whether I think anything should be done or not, and even knowing he aims not to rule on intent. I guess because having gotten even Dr. Bob to buy in would be the ultimate satisfaction. (Sorry, I know I'm not psychic. These are all just my impressions.)
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