Posted by Dinah on October 1, 2011, at 12:10:19
In reply to Re: dinah » SLS, posted by Solstice on October 1, 2011, at 8:22:47
> It`s not his mother and doctor that deny him access to what will help him. He`s had repeated opportunities. It`s Matt who denies himself access to what will help him.. by abusing them each and every time he has them.
My mother would really like you, Solstice. :)
That was always part of "discipline" from my mother. She required me (and her students) to acknowledge their role in whatever consequences resulted from their behavior. Mind you, none of the consequences were at all abusive or particularly unfair. Just natural consequences. "If you don't follow the rules at the zoo, you have to stay by me instead of running around with the other kids." Things like that. There were never really any punishments, precisely. Just an explanation (lecture?) about the reason for the rules, and setting out what the results for noncompliance will be.
I was all set to do that with my son too, but found he had an unusually mature understanding on the topic. Maybe due to his Montessori experience. I rarely had to do more than explain the rules and consequences. He understood that the results were in his control.
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