Posted by Dinah on February 27, 2011, at 21:21:05
In reply to Re: Ferber, posted by morgan miller on February 27, 2011, at 15:40:02
I suppose my main concern was the focus on depression in mothers as opposed to mothers, or parents, in general. But that point seems to be not in disagreement after your latest post and I am glad to see that.
I of course agree, as does my therapist, that parenting experiences play a role in our development. I don't think we ever disagreed about that, though, as I said, I think we disagree on the arrangement of the spectrum of neglect and the degree of impact on the average baby.
I have gotten the understanding that you feel you didn't receive what you needed from your mother, and that she was a depressed mother? Was she a good and nurturing mother as you got older?
Heaven knows I have plenty of experience of a mother with mental health issues. I suppose I wish I could have to go back to my infancy to find issues that result from my parents' behavior. I can't imagine how much better my life would have been if my mother had been in therapy and had more self awareness. Which may be why I place far more importance on character, intent, and self awareness than I do on the fact that a mother has depression.
You've been very gracious. I thank you for that.
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