Posted by Dinah on February 27, 2011, at 1:02:14
In reply to Re: Ferber, posted by morgan miller on February 27, 2011, at 0:40:05
I don't believe I used a mother's depression as an excuse for neglect. That would be quite unlike me.
I think I said that the sort of thing you were describing could happen whether or not a mother is depressed, and is not actually all that uncommon. I don't see any particular reason to single out depressed mothers. Yes, it is a spectrum. I suppose we disagree on where on the spectrum it belongs, and possibly also on what constitutes what is necessary for proper development in general as opposed to what an individual might consider to have been necessary for their proper development.
Obviously this idea is very important to you. Is it part of your therapy? My therapist isn't an attachment therapist. I really can't even comprehend it in the same terms you do. Therefore I'm letting this conversation go.
I hope you are able to find what your mother was unable to provide for you.
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