Posted by gardenergirl on April 14, 2006, at 15:02:49
In reply to Re: Husband Giving Up ... » gardenergirl, posted by Flame on April 14, 2006, at 13:53:48
>As already mentioned, it is about putting me over the edge .. making me look at everything else that has gone in with my husband and thinking that this might be "it". The "it" that finally tells me that I am done.
It's good to know your limits, but it also sounds upsetting.
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> It is so VERY hard to continue living with someone that refuses to help himself. I guess this is the way it always has been, but me realizing/understanding that my husband is NOT going to work anymore .. well, that is what really made me understand that nothing is EVER going to change.Are you finding any relief at all in coming to that realization about change? I guess it could be both depressing and freeing to think that.
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> As far as counseling for myself .. well, I don't do that anymore. Ultimately every counselor that I talk to about "our" problems always end up advocating (after about a half year of counseling) that they can see no reason why I stay.I can imagine that could be frustrating. Perhaps they were trying to validate your experience, but if that's not what you're looking for, I can see how it might not feel helpful.
Wishing you the best,
gg
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