Posted by Flame on April 14, 2006, at 13:53:48
In reply to Re: Husband Giving Up ... » Flame, posted by gardenergirl on April 14, 2006, at 13:23:09
Hi GG,
Thanks for your response to me!Yes, I have been in and out of therapy also .. in trying to learn how to deal with my husband's depression. As mentioned in my first post here, my current all time high frustration is now coming from the fact that my husband is advocating that he "can't" work because of his depression.
I have been VERY supportive thus far (married 27 years) of my husband. I am finding (for whatever reason) that I can't be supportive of him NOT working. As already mentioned, it is about putting me over the edge .. making me look at everything else that has gone in with my husband and thinking that this might be "it". The "it" that finally tells me that I am done.
It is so VERY hard to continue living with someone that refuses to help himself. I guess this is the way it always has been, but me realizing/understanding that my husband is NOT going to work anymore .. well, that is what really made me understand that nothing is EVER going to change.
As far as counseling for myself .. well, I don't do that anymore. Ultimately every counselor that I talk to about "our" problems always end up advocating (after about a half year of counseling) that they can see no reason why I stay.
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