Posted by Racer on March 3, 2006, at 12:52:18
In reply to Re: Worst visit ever.........., posted by willyee on March 2, 2006, at 17:02:32
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> Her words were she said if i coninued to fail on parnate before she left she was taking me off cause she said no other doc would presccribe it,also she said she personaly wanted me on lexapro.
>I agree with what others have said, and what you already know: this is not the pdoc for you.
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> Im also shocked cause she knew nothing of the patch,I TOLD HER about,on and on for months,and she anchwledged my desire for it,then she read on it,prob a paragraph and told me TWICE no and its not even out yet.
>(Disclaimer: please read this next part with an open mind. It's not meant as criticism, just as an alternate view of the interactions.)
You say that you're the one who told her about the patch, and that you told her about it "on and on for months," and that you were explaining it to her. Do you think that she might have been reacting to that? A lot of doctors do, in a knee jerk sort of a way, "I'm the one who went to Med School here -- stop trying to tell me how to do my job."
In one sense, they're right. They've been through med school, and passed enough tests to prove that they've learned something -- and the important thing that sets that apart is that they have the structure and context for the information we can read on the net. We may be more informed than many people out there, but for most of us it's not in a complete matrix of information. It's rather isolated bits, hanging around out of context. (And even if it's not, the doctors rarely know that. I've got friends with doctorates in sciences who get the same treatment from doctors.)
I guess what I'm trying to get across is that you may have inadvertantly triggered some of her own ego issues, by "telling" her about things, rather than asking. That's happened to me, and it's not fun. Doctors will get into power struggles with patients, and while it's supposed to be their responsibility to avoid it, sometimes it ends up being up to us to get out of it. What I've done that has worked well for me is to say something more like, "I've read about this new drug, it's this sort of medication, and I wondered if you thought, since I'd responded well to a similar sort of med, that it might be helpful for me?" That's worked a whole lot better than the alternative...
Hope that helps, and good luck with your new pdoc, whoever it is.
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