Posted by simon levane on February 2, 2006, at 16:05:16
In reply to Re: Suicide on Effexor, posted by Devastated Mother on February 2, 2006, at 14:00:14
Dear D.M.
I know where you are at.. I really do.
I feel empty and lost without my daughter - troubled as she was, she was a joy but not believing this could happen, I felt that I could be upset at her, not understanding the true scale of her illness, I reacted. Friends have told me that she and I would have come through the troubles because I loved her and she loved me, but I could not have imagined this terrible outcome. I know your son loved being in your family and from what you have written, my goodness, he sounded like such an accomplished young man with so much potential. I also know he would not want you to suffer, and he would not want you to be in any pain. I know that is also true of my daughter, though I know how hard it is to find that truth of our children's care for us against the reality of their deaths.
I sometimes write this, though it is hard to really experience it beyond the pain, but our children just would not want us to suffer. I do feel angry at the truly incompetent medical care and I do understand how you feel about those forms. My daughter would have been happy to have us see her doctor, but the fool just did not like dealing with parents. What a jerk!!
All we can do now is try to get across the importance of sharing information with family members. There are exceptions to confidentiality and one of them is risk. Risk to patient and risk to others. And what could be more horrible than the pain we now suffer?
Take care,
SL
> Retrospect is so frustrating. If I could turn back time...I would change this by demanding of the doctor that she tell me what the potential side effects were...oh, no, because I couldn't because of that stupid HIBA law. (not sure how to spell it) they always quote, that prevents sharing with family--who then is to blame, if the drug company says people should be informed and the doctor doesn't bother, and uses this HBIA privacy law to excuse it?
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> Legitimate and miserable depression ensues...
poster:simon levane
thread:601406
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